Remember when you were a kid and you and _____ were BFFs? Then in the summer after Grade 4 her family moved to another city and by the first week of September you had a new BFF and could barely remember _____’s name?
Okay, so I never actually went through that, but you get my point.
I’ve written previously that I consider my sister to be one of my best friends. There are only two others who fall into that category. Both of them live outside Ottawa. One of them moved to Toronto fairly recently and the other has lived in Vancouver for years. I miss them both a lot and don’t talk to them nearly as much as I should. However, that doesn’t mean that our friendship has faded. That really hit home last night when I was feeling down and struggling to write. Suddenly a message popped up from my friend Katie (the one in Vancouver) wondering why I was still up so late and how I was doing. I didn’t really want to rehash everything that was on my mind right then, so she told me a story about the difficulty she was encountering with planning her wedding, putting it into a ‘Once upon a time’ third person tale. We co-miserated a bit and made plans to Skype soon and I finally went to bed. This evening she called to check in on me and see how I was doing. We chatted for a bit and promised to Skype tomorrow. I hung up with a smile on my face. Despite the fact that she lives over 4,000 kms away and that we’ve only been in the same place 3 times in the past 5 years (I’m counting our going out to Vancouver for a week and her staying with us for our wedding as one time each), I still feel as close to her as ever. We can still talk about anything and we’re still there for one another when we’re upset. We’ve seen each other through a lot of good and bad.
I find it difficult to get close to people. I’m insecure and incredibly self-concious. I worry sometimes that I may come across as cool or aloof, when really I’m just painfully shy. So I find it particularly difficult to be so far away from the people I love, trust and feel completely at ease with. I’m glad that despite the physical distance, we’re still so close. We’ve proven that long-distance relationships can work, and I’m incredibly grateful for that.